Saturday, March 12, 2011

Submit to your Husband

Them's fighting words! Among most women that is :D And I don't know about you, but it's something I really struggle with. I know what is right, I know what the Bible says, but the execution of it is a bit elusive :)

So I pray. I ask God to help me be a submissive wife. I talk to Godly counsel. I get advice on how to do it. I read "Created To Be His HelpMeet" (For the umpteenth time) and I start making some headway...I think...And then...He says or does something that infuriates me, and I throw it all out the window and yell right back at him. I say things that aren't right. I refuse to submit to him. I refuse to respect him in any way. Shocking, huh? (Sorry if you thought I was perfect :D LOL)

Now, I'm not saying he's perfect or that he's right in what he's doing, but it's not a justification for my actions. As my friend so eloquently put it HERE God made an order for the way a household should be and if I'm not in my place I'M WRONG! No matter what he does. I'm not responsible for his actions, only mine. I can't let his actions pull me away from Christ. I can't use his actions to justify my sins.

1 Peter 3:1-2 says "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." First I know most people use this in reference to an un-saved husband, but while I agree that it can be used in that regard, I think it can be used for a husband who isn't necessarily living right even though he is "saved". I also must point out that the word conversation here isn't just referring to your speech. The word conversation being used here is "behavior or manner of living" or "act of living with," or "to live with, keep company with," lit. "turn about with," "having dealings with others," also "manner of conducting oneself in the world;" It's your actions not your words :)

So what am I saying exactly? Well, I'm struggling. I need prayer in this area. Any words of wisdom or encouragement are welcome! :D


Sarah said...

Twylia...a great post! I wrote something similar a few months back!

Submitting to our husbands is hard work...but definitely worth it! The blessing within the home enviroment are easy to see immediately.

I used to find it incredibly difficult and even though its not always easy now...with the Lords help I am slowly getting better at it! ;)

Thank you for your encouragement on my blog post on the 'un-schooling' issue! Such a touchy subject also!

Twinkle Toes said...

Thank you! It is definitely hard work! And I am really slow about getting "there". But I know that eventually (with the Lords help) I'll at least be doing better :)

Bobbin Aubins said...

I was just listening to a message that I got at ladies conference, and it is on the Titus woman. It was really good and one of the cd's I am gonna send to you. Definitely an area I think all wives can work on. :-)

Twinkle Toes said...

Cool Beans! Thanks a bunch Sis! :D

Unknown said...

Great post! I love "Created to be His Helpmeet" and I have had to read it several times myself. Our role as wife is a hard one but I would rather have my responsibilities than my husband's for sure.
Blessings to you,

Wasatch Wife said...

Praying for you!! Thanks for showing me in a link! --S

Deborah said...

LOL - ALL women have this hurdle to jump. That is clear from Genesis.

Sorry, but I threw out my 'Created to be His Help Meet'. That will just make you go around in circles chasing ideals that are off base.

Just stick to the bible and what God says, and you'll be good to go.

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