Saturday, March 12, 2011
Them's fighting words! Among most women that is :D And I don't know about you, but it's something I really struggle with. I know what is right, I know what the Bible says, but the execution of it is a bit elusive :)
So I pray. I ask God to help me be a submissive wife. I talk to Godly counsel. I get advice on how to do it. I read "Created To Be His HelpMeet" (For the umpteenth time) and I start making some headway...I think...And then...He says or does something that infuriates me, and I throw it all out the window and yell right back at him. I say things that aren't right. I refuse to submit to him. I refuse to respect him in any way. Shocking, huh? (Sorry if you thought I was perfect :D LOL)
Now, I'm not saying he's perfect or that he's right in what he's doing, but it's not a justification for my actions. As my friend so eloquently put it HERE God made an order for the way a household should be and if I'm not in my place I'M WRONG! No matter what he does. I'm not responsible for his actions, only mine. I can't let his actions pull me away from Christ. I can't use his actions to justify my sins.
1 Peter 3:1-2 says "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." First I know most people use this in reference to an un-saved husband, but while I agree that it can be used in that regard, I think it can be used for a husband who isn't necessarily living right even though he is "saved". I also must point out that the word conversation here isn't just referring to your speech. The word conversation being used here is "behavior or manner of living" or "act of living with," or "to live with, keep company with," lit. "turn about with," "having dealings with others," also "manner of conducting oneself in the world;" It's your actions not your words :)
So what am I saying exactly? Well, I'm struggling. I need prayer in this area. Any words of wisdom or encouragement are welcome! :D